The girlfriend pointing at the boyfriend, the boyfriend blaming the girlfriend. The wifey bombarding on the hubby and the hubby retracting it on her. Who is at fault? We probably do not know. Let’s find out…
How many times have you heard the prominent phrase,” it’s your fault and not mine?” Many a times, right? No matter whoever utters it, the recipient is generally aggravated by the allusion that they have made some mistake. It appears as if no one wants to be labelled by a fickle finger blaming them and charging them for something or the other.
A very common trait observed in humans, it seems that everyone hates to be in the situation of fault. However, the same person would leave no stones unturned to blame the opposite person. And relationship between a man and a woman, husband and wife, a girl and a boy is no different.
Why does it happen? Well, mainly because in a relationship often a person may find it thorny to say they made a blunder, did something they were not supposed to do or didn’t do something they were supposed to do. So what they usually do as an alternative? Well, to make it appear simple and very straightforward, they simply remove their hand, point that index finger at their spouse and articulate, “It wasn’t me, it was you!”
Why is it hard for people in a relationship to admit the truth that they may be liable in a situation that has an ill-fated upshot? Maybe it has something in relation to the other sport that is played by several people. Accepting charge is accepting the reality that they are not faultless. It is so awful that although they know they are not just right in every way, but still they don’t want people to discern that actually.
The sport of Blame and the I’m faultless Game are sport that end up without any winners. It basically isn’t worth the time it takes to fool around by playing these blame games. On the contrary, it is so much healthier to engage yourself in the Integrity Game and to take the blame by saying you are at fault. It is always better and sensible to own up to limitation and imperfection. Flawlessness and perfectness are really dull and overestimated. To be honest, it is in fact unachievable.
Apprehension is yet another aspect that comes into picture for those who play the sport of retribution, repercussions, fear of consequence, embarrassment, blame game and payback.
Lastly, the most vital question to raise for yourself if you are playing the Blame Game is, does it actually matter who is correct and who is incorrect in any given circumstances in any relationship. Does pointing your fingers on others can ever perk up a relationship? Of course not; in fact, it will increase more and more problem than solving the last few.
Well, conceivably taking the elevated road and opting integrity is a better alternative than playing the Blame Game, isn’t it?
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