Earlier this year, a Delhi court labelled ‘Pre-Marital Sex’ as immoral further adding that it is against the ‘tenets of every religion.’ The court also said, “No religon in the world allows pre-martial sex.” While the Indian court straightforwardly tagged pre-marital sexual intercourse as unethical, I wonder why did it miss the basic Vedic literature of Ancient India, which not just had any objection on this conception, but also favored a relationship based out of ‘only love.’
Pre-marital sex in modern day world is highly thought of as a ‘sinful’, ‘wrongful’, ‘impure’, ‘shameful’ and ‘dishonourable’ act. However, let me tell you it is just a modern day philosophy! In fact, ancient Hindus would have found such a judgement or perception as ‘alien.’ Yes, Pre-marital Sex is not at all wrong, impure or sinful as it is highlighted.
Besides, how can something be wrong and sinful when it is based out of love and is purely consensual? Not convinced? Well, then lets dig into some of the many rationale to support my stand for ‘Pre-marital Sex!’
Many People are of the Opinion that Sex before Marriage is Wrong – Mainly Because they assume It is Against the Religion!
In Hinduism, there are 8 types of marrriages and out of those eight, one is ‘Gandharva Vivaah’ – A marriage purely based on mutual attraction which was highly practiced in Ancient India. In this type of marriage, a woman selected her own partner. They then consensually decided to stay together and it was sensual passion that consummated their relationship. Mind you, Gandharava Vivaah neither needed any parental consent nor any approval from the so called society. And if you scroll the pages of Kamasutra or Adi Parva in Mahabharat, you’ll find that ‘Gandharva Parva’ is the most promiment of all forms of marriage.
Poonaam Uppal’s Book – ‘A Passionaate Gospel of True Love : A Mystical True Love Story‘ too gets the chord correct as she rightly quotes ‘True Love as the only Religion of the Future!’
What is Morality and Promiscuity – Lets Give it a Thought Once Again!
If you read the renowned neuroscientist Sam Hariss’ book ‘The Moral Landscape: How Science Can Determine Human Values’ where he tries to draw a third path between religionists (who believe that morality is given by the supreme God along with the scriptures), and secularists (who say morality is highly subjective), you’ll see that, he rightly defines Morality scientifically and measures it as a function of neuroscience and evolution.
Ultimately, concluding in very simple language – “A behavior or an act is moral if it amplifies collective bliss and immoral if it attempts to minimize the felicity.” Now, intimacy before marriage, neither diminished happiness in the past nor it does today (because it is consensual) so how can it be termed as immoral?
Claiming Pre-Marital Lovemaking as Wrong – Viewpoint of the Misogynst World?
Women are the better halves of Men, however, right from the medieval times women were oppressed and people even commoditized them. In fact, it was thought (which is still applicable) that a woman who indulges into pre-marital sex is out of patriarchal control, and she should be immediately punished – at times people even boycotting her. No wonder, the prejudiced minds irrationaly declines feminine sexuality as they fear sexual expressions of females.
To be honest, this misogynist thinking is actually immoral which denies natural exploration of one’s sexuality.
How can men obstruct something which is natural, who are they to restrict someone’s happiness? Isn’t sexual indulgence a significant feature of human life? Who are these men, people or society to shun the natural feelings of a human being? Who are these people to term ‘immoral’ to something which is so ‘natural’ and ‘intrinsic’?
Do you still think Pre-marital sex is wrong? Do put your thoughts ]and let’s continue the conversation from there.