Khul Jaye Bachpan At Its Best When Parents Become Buddy Parents

Parenting is not that easy. Becoming too harsh will make them rebel and becoming too lenient would make them sit you on your head. In such circumstances, the best way to deal with them is by being their buddy. Yes, only a buddy parent can guide the tiny tots and make learning easy and playful.

While, I’m still not a parent, I have seen how my sister a mother of a 7 year old kid has been a buddy parent over the years. Here are few instances, “The Khushi Ke Pal” Between my sister (parent) and my nephew (child).

When She Taught Him the Magic of Science, and He Taught Him a New Regional Language – “Kannada”

Observing scientists experimenting in the labs while watching cartoons, my nephew gets excited about science and the so called experiments, wondering how such things would be possible. Watching her son’s curiosity and interest in these experiments, my sister and his mom thought of showing him the basic experiments which is possible right at the comfort of home.

Next, she announced that they will together build a lab in the house and carry out similar experiments in the house. Fully excited my nephew geared up for the event and even shared the news with his dad, asking him the details. His dad revealed things that only excited him more.

When I entered the house, my nephew immediately took me to the second balcony. I wondered what the mother and son duo was upto. My nephew introduced me to their lab (which was the balcony) and introduced me to the scientist in the lab (who was sis) and introduced him as her assistant.

My sis was ready with a bowl of water, surf, and turmeric. I understood.


She then showed the first experiment to my nephew. How turmeric changed its color and became red in the presence of soapy water. Overwhelmed, my nephew was too excited to see a magic happening in front of his eyes.




His mom in a playful way explained him the reaction. And this is the way they have been learning many things in a playful way.

While, it would be just a “kuch bhi….” for a grownup it sure is a khushi ke pal for a parent and a child where both enjoy the precious moments and even the spectators like me cannot stop but appreciate the bonding moments. Believe me, it was khuljaye bachpan at its best!

They also have litmus paper and magnifying glass in their lab. My nephew these days often describe how certain things look under the magnifying glass.

 Surprisingly, my sister could learn from my nephew too – How?

Well, we are a bunch of North Indians and south Indian language is almost like Greek and Latin to us. So, when my sister shifted to Bangalore, she had lot of problems while talking to the local vendors especially those selling vegetables. Neither my sister could understand their language, nor did they understand my sister’s language. They talked in sign languages.

My nephew was admitted in a CBSE school. However, they said, “Kannada” is compulsory up till 8th Std. Now this worried both my sister and my nephew.

However, during the vacations, my nephew started going to a teacher’s place in the same building who taught Kannada language. Being a fast learner to our surprise he could grasp the language very quickly. Not just the basic aa aa ee ee but also some key words used in the daily life. Now he is learning Kannada language both in school as well as his Kannada tuition classes.


Back at home, when he is free he often sits with his home, writes the Kannada alphabets and makes her repeat what he says. In a way, he is teaching her the language Kannada while he himself is learning it in school.


He now knows how to say 1 to 20 in Kannada and he has taught the same to his mom. So, whenever my sister now goes to the local sabzi thella, she bargains using the Kannada term for the numbers.

So, when it comes to Kannada, my sister is a student and my nephew is a teacher. While, my nephew teaches her patiently, my sister too learns enthusiastically and even ask question out of curiosity which he answers sometimes like…..”are baba….” And then explains her in detail. The role reversal pattern followed by my sister is nothing but a part of being a buddy parent. After all, such moments not only give us some memorable moments (khushi ke pal) but also help us to relive our own childhood in a unique way (khul jaye bachchpan)

Another Instance

She is Teaching Him Yoga, While He is Guiding Her With the Mobile Apps, & PC Games

These days my nephew is going to karate classes and so he needs to be fit. Unexpectedly, he asked his mother to teach him yoga so that he becomes proactive in his physical activity. Happy to help my sister is teaching him all the kid yoga poses like Butterfly pose, Child Pose. Prayanama and Kapalbhati is something he has been doing since he was 4!


This one hour yoga session which they do on weekends is truly “Khushi Ke Pal” The reason? Well, the family bond over it. During one such session in my presence in the end my nephew announced let’s end the yoga with the ghoda asan (Horse pose) and there was an great level of excitement on his face.

Next, I saw my sister became a horse and my little nephew was riding his horse around the world (the house). It was indeed a ‘Khuljaye Bachpan’ moment for me.

Few hours later after the lunch, I saw both the mother and son on the couch and my nephew shouting, “mom F1 F1, the arrow keys, no no the “N” button…” and when I came near I saw he was teaching the tricks of playing GTA Vice City.


I couldn’t help but smile after observing the significance of Buddy Parenting. No wonder, it did gave me those “Kushi Ke Pal” to cherish and even a “Khuljaye Bachpan” moment.

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No More Crash Diet, Go Lean With Honey Diet – Stay Fit and Feel Young!

Now-a-days the Indian market is plumped with calorie-restricted weight loss crash diets. However, majority of these diets only reduce the weight of one’s wallet rather than reducing the fat from the overweight person. Crash diets do not usually work since they are not just metabolically unsound but also lacks the necessary nutrition which is very significant to keep the body healthy.  What’s more, a person may feel weak and lousy due to the crash diets as the body tends to lose protein and water.

Crash Diet is a strict No-No if you want to Stay Fit and Feel Young. Wondering what is then the best health alternative diet to reduce those extra pounds? Well, it is Honey Diet. Introduced by Dabur, it is a diet full of honey that will not just reduce your weight but ensure that you do not compromise with the nutrients.


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Here, we tell you how:

Crash diet often leads to rapid weight loss which can slow the body’s metabolism rate. Though it might reduce the weight quickly, it will deprive the body of necessary nutrients, and may lead to quick weight gain in the future. Additionally, crash diets can even deteriorate your immune system and upsurge the risk of heart palpitations, cardiac stress and dehydration.

On the other hand, when you start your day with Honey and follow the Honey Diet, you will not only manage your weight properly, but also give your body a dose of energy, which will not just aid in toning your body, but also help you to keep active and beautiful.

Because Honey is healthy and can reduce weight without compromising with the nutritional aspects

Honey is a healthy sugar substitute. It is sweeter than sugar and has comparatively less calories. So, simply by substituting honey in your diet you can easily reduce the intake of calories. What’s more, Honey has high dose of minerals, proteins, enzymes and anti-oxidants which are significant in the functioning of the human body. So, instead of opting crash diet one can simply opt for Dabur’s Honey Diet.

Crash Dieters often face shortage of magnesium, copper and potassium in their body which may lead to arrhythmias. What’s more, it can even lower your blood pressure. However, if you start your day with warm water and a spoonful of Dabur Honey as part of your Honey Diet, you will not only lose weight judiciously but also get all the necessary minerals such as calcium, potassium, sodium, iron, zinc, copper and phosphorous. The reason being, Honey can easily mobilize the fat which is otherwise stored in your body. Besides, when crash diets can increase the risk of cardiovascular disorders, honey only reduces the risk, by keeping your heart hale and healthy.

Honey Strawberry milkshake


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Lastly, there are hundreds of crash diets in the market and you are not sure which one would be good for you. But, when it comes to Honey, you know it is pure and healthy which will surely give you the desired result. Then why just not grab the bottle of Dabur Honey ( and get started with a Honey Diet.

To know how to prepare snack, beverage, and lunch made out of honey, you can check out Vikas Khanna’s recipes here.


An Immune India, Let’s together make it!

A few years back, India was hit terribly with the Chikungunya virus as well as the Swine Flu and people all around the country became prey to these viruses in no time. While maximum of the populace was hit by the dreadful viruses, few of them or let us say a bunch of them were still not touched upon. If we try to figure out, we will find that, the fortunate class was the adults or the grownups who could somehow manage to escape the clutches of these viruses but the majority of the susceptible class in the entire outbreak was the “children, the most vulnerable group of human population to any epidemic, disease, flu or fever.

In this entire episode, why do you think the few fortunate were adults while the worst affected were mostly kids? The reason is absolutely plain and simple – Adults have a developed immune system whereas the immunity in the kids is in a developing stage. This makes them prone to any foreign invaders in their body easily.

Despite the fact that, there are many curative measures to prevent almost every invasion of viruses through vaccines/oral dose and protozoans via medicines, thanks to WHO along with UNICEF who are on the pledge to vanish almost all the diseases that are found or spreading in the developing nations, don’t you think all the developing nations including India should impose preventive measures against the epidemic to reduce the invasion by half? For instance, we know India is a tropical country and so, mosquitoes being omnipresent can attack us any time then why surround ourselves with a heap of waste or stagnant water where they can breed and multiply significantly in no time.

While UNICEF along with WHO are pledging to make a difference in the world through curative measures, being Indians it becomes our responsibility to aid them in this noble cause by amending preventive measures to build a healthier, strong and more immune India…

So, how do we start? Well, the change should simultaneously begin from all the different spheres – The rural, town area, urban cities as well as the metropolitans. Here’s how –

Right food can neither be expensive for the rural children nor troublesome for the urban kids

It is every easy to dictate everyone that “eat right” in order to become healthy and immune to various diseases. But, in a poor country like India how will the less privileged children eat a nutritious diet when they are already suffering from malnutrition? Well, point to be noted. However, do you think nutritious diet can be expensive? Well, not as expensive as you may wonder. The Indian Government can easily promote the cultivation of fruits, vegetables and whole grains that are rich in Vitamin C and E, Carotenoid, Bioflavanoids and give farmers subsidies and an advantage when it comes to promotion of these agricultural products at the rural level. Besides, the midday meals should possess only those items that boost immunity in the children. In addition, they should tie up with FMCG like Dabur who have affordable readymade immunity boosting products in the form of Dabur Chyawanprash and serve the less fortunate children who are most vulnerable to diseases in the rural community. Well, when the Political parties can distribute Tabs after winning elections, I am sure that this is a cheaper and feasible solution.

In the urban areas and metropolitans where the kids possess a lavish lifestyle and eat lots of junk foods, awareness at school should be conducted regularly. Schools and homemakers should make sure they help these kids to consume the necessary immune boosting fruits and vegetables, nuts and whole grains in the form they would love to eat. For instance, a child may not like to eat chapatti and cabbage or even carrots however, if you impart these vegetables and give the kid in the form of Frankie or a roll, he would eat it happily. So, it becomes our responsibility to serve our kinds all the nutritional food along with immune boosting products like Chyawanprash to help them against all the foreign invaders at this tender age.

All work and no play really make Jack a dull boy, so let them engage in recreation

Kids in the rural places are into a lot of physical activities so they really do not need physical exercises to maintain their fitness level. Also, the atmosphere where they live is tranquil and dirt free. In cities, however, it is altogether a different story and so urban children should have a physical regime in their day’s time-table wherein they stretch out their arms and legs. There should also be regular mini marathons, the tournaments of various sports in the school where even the lazy ones participate actively. Evening time should be allocated to these physical activities and not tuitions or computer games or cartoons. Also, make sure once the child is back, he is following healthy habits of cleaning, washing and eating so that no bacteria, dust or any organism can imply affect on his body.

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Parents should even indulge with their children in activities like yoga and sports so that children find it fun and adhere to the regime willingly. Animators and film makers should even make films which promote the benefits of physical activities.

Adequate Sleep is all that is required

Children in the rural areas do not get enough sleep as they are helping their parents, doing several physical activities as well as going long distance to study. A good number of schools should be imposed in every rural village so that children do not have to travel far also hand pumps should be erected in as close proximity as possible to make the life of these children easier. In short, more and more facilities should be provided to rural children so that their life would be much easier and they get enough sleep every day.

In rural areas, care should be taken by parents to see that children sleep early in order to get their adequate sleep. No TV, No playing, No Video games should be the habit of children. Early to be and early to rise should be the basic mantra of a student life. Also, make sure you provide children the healthy Ayurvedic oil like Dabur Lal Tail that enables them to sleep peacefully.

Mental Stress will affect the immunity in your child, so stop pressurizing!

A year back, I was startled to find out my neighbor’s 12 year old son was tagged as “stressed” by his pediatrician when he was having his regular rounds of check up (he was born as a premature baby and so his immunity is always in a mess and easily gets cold, flu and whatever fever is in the air). The doctor termed him as stressed and asked his parents not to pressurize him for studies etc. The parents never pressurized him for anything and were surprised by the verdict. However, on doctor’s inquiry, it was found out that the constant fights between the couple and his loneliness (only child with no siblings and working parents) stressed him out completely as he had nobody to talk or share his happiness/activities on a day to day basis. As parents, we should always try to see that we maintain the house atmosphere as calm and peaceful as possible to give our young ones a happy and healthy atmosphere to live in.


An Immune India is not a Utopian dream but a possible reality of the near future, if we watch out our habit and help our children to follow the same. And in doing so, each of the individual and family should take a pledge to follow the regime firmly – Starting from the urban household and locality to each of the remote villages of India. It is really a pleasure to see the House of Dabur is campaigning for such a noble cause and directly reaching out lack of children nationwide with their motto – “Healthy Generation. Healthy Nation!”

This post is a part of Indiblogger  and Dabur’s “An Immune India” contest.

To know more about Dabur Chyawanprash’s nationwide Immune India campaign click here

Modern Health Care: How it became my savior and changed my life for better!


“Acoustic Neuroma” – not many of the people would relate with this slow demon, besides medical professionals and of course victims like me who have had an exigent encounter with this evil spirit in their lifetime.  If you are still wondering what this sophisticated term is, then let me enlighten you with the fact that, it is nothing but Brain tumor, a benign one. Hence, it earns the sobriquet of ‘slow demon’ from me.

The demon starts invading by making its space in the 8th cranial nerve which connects the inner ear with the brain. The main function of this nerve is to transmit sound and maintain balance of the body. Although the devil does not march into the brain in the beginning, it can slowly shove into the brain as it develops. The bigger ones can easily squash the close cranial nerves that control the muscles of the facial expressions and sensation. The normal ones are from 1cm to 3 cm but since I’m God’s favorite child having had all those extra things in life, my tumor also came with the XL size. Yes, it was beyond the normal, a whopping 4.5 cm.

In most of the cases, when your surgery is done successfully and the tumor is out, it is a BIG RELIEFFFF! But, surprisingly in Acoustic Neuroma, it is just the beginning! So, what are the complications and how could the team of doctors (Yes, it involves everyone from neurosurgeon to list of others) help me get out of this disastrous phase of my life, Well, courtesy the Modern Healthcare! The Modern Healthcare not only helped me stay alive but also gave me a wild card entry to start my life afresh with hope and optimism. Yes, it touched my life in every aspect.

Back to my story,

The year was 2005, I was in my grads enjoying the freedom and thrill of my college life. Travelling besides a passion had become a routine as I began catching my Local train from Belapur, Navi Mumbai to CST (VT), South Mumbai to reach my college at Pedder Road. I was becoming lethargic as the winter was approaching. I was neither able to balance myself nor could walk straight, I thought maybe it was because I was putting on a bit. Then, I used to always stay confused, there was a hoarseness in my voice. Worst, I could not even swallow my food nor could eat my food like a sane person. It looks all fine when at home but just imagine how it looked when I’m out and eating in a restaurant or the college canteen.

Soon all this became an issue. It was affecting my personality. I started hating myself for all these sudden developments but nothing worked out. Soon, during a holiday, I had a massive headache and I collapsed (Just like how they show in the Bollywood movies, yes it was that filmy). I had minor headaches all the while but I neglected thinking it was mainly due to the hectic travelling. After the collapse, my family doctor insisted for a CT Scan and to all our surprise I was having a Tumor which needed urgent surgery as soon as possible. There were certain after affects of the surgery which I had to face but all I wanted was to come out of this trauma which I was facing from past 6 months. I was not willing to live a crooked life. My mantra like any other Indian youth was, “Jiyo toh jiyo shaan se

That day after the CT Scan, for the first time I did not complain but I thanked the person who invented the CT Scan machine. Just imagine, all those people who died just because their tumor could not be diagnosed. The very next day, I met my neurosurgeon and as soon as I had a brief meeting with him, I decided he is the one who’ll operate me. I was admitted in a hospital 3 days before my surgery to mellow down the demon and make it easy for me. Soon, the D-Day came and I was taken to the OT. I was taken to the OT at around 9am and was out of it only by 7pm. So, what was the team of doctors doing in these 10 hours?

The removal of acoustic neuroma is not easy as it sounds because it damages the facial nerve defragmenting the eyes, ears and leaving the victim with facial palsy (facial paralysis) to the side where it resides. There are three ways of treating acoustic neuroma, the Retrosigmoid method where the treatment is done through the skull, the Translabyrinthine where the treatment is done through the inner ear and the most successful, middle fossa, which not only aids in the removal of tumor but also helps in preserving any hear loss. Had there been no such discoveries and healthcare services and treatments, there would be many like me who would be living a disastrous life with poor eyesight and poor hearing right at the peak of their adulthood. Imagine the pain, the agony, the depression!

If the tumor is in the normal range, these after affects can be eliminated. If not, it can have a lasting impact. This means the victim after the surgery can have facial palsy – neither can they close their eyes completely nor can they smile properly.


Facial Palsy                       After the treatment of Facial Palsy



And as mine was 4.5 cm, I became the victim of facial palsy. Neither I could close my eyes, nor could I move the left side of my face, smile or move my eyebrow.  (This was year 2005, the new inventions and discoveries from 2005 to 2013 has been so effective, that facial palsy in acoustic neuroma is now on the lesser side of the coin)

I got the shock of my life when I experienced that I could not move the left side of my face. My new face did not want to face the world. My features which my friends used to praise so much was gone. I was saved but I was lost in depression. But still I was happy to get away from those monstrous moments prior to my surgery.

Soon, I started recovering. Within a week I started eating all the liquid stuff. Thanks to all the modern healthcare equipments and discoveries which could make me stand, eat and aid me to do all my stuff in a month. How can I forget all the physiotherapists and the stimulation machine which was applied on me and my face to help my naughty facial muscles to regain its lost power.

Then, my neurosurgeon suggested I meet a plastic surgeon for my Facial palsy. Following which, nerve grafting was done. Well, Nerve Grafting or Nerve Transplant is similar to plant grafting. A sural nerve was removed from my left leg and inserted into my face to act as a catalyst to help my left muscles to move. After the surgery, it was better than before and I could move my left side a bit.

The facial palsy has a bad effect on the eyes. It makes your eyes lose its shape and no matter how beautiful your eyes may be, post facial palsy it becomes same like Donald Duck – Big, oval, howling eyes. We are human beings and not cartoons, right? That too, a young girl. Period!

Next, I was in the hospital again for the surgery on my eye. Post surgery, I was happy as I got my eyes back once again. Perfectly symmetrical! No more those howling eyes but gorgeously flawless. I got my old eyes back and with time I could close it completely.

Modern Healthcare has changed my life completely for the better. I could start my life afresh! Gain my confidence and begin my normal life in just a short span, as quick as 1 month after my major surgery and 1 week after all my minor surgeries. I still have my Face Lift Surgery pending and I’m going to do it soon. I’m glad such a thing exists in India, otherwise I would have lost hope and enthusiasm long back!

I’m not very affluent that I could afford a treatment abroad, so it was a great relief that every surgery was carried out successfully here in India with amazing trained professionals. Today, all the hospitals are doing a brilliant job by providing all the modern amenities and treatment to their patients, one such is Apollo hospital.

I owe my life and the good developments to the Modern Healthcare. Yes, I am not that robust hard-hearted or a brat like I used to before. I learnt the hard way but I am glad I did. Today, I love myself and all the good things happening around me. I am more positive and accept all the challenges that come my way.

I always thought that I would pen it down one day and shower all the love and the awaiting credits,  I’m glad I finally could.

This story is my entry for “How does Modern Healthcare touch lives?” contest.

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