Pre-Marital Sex Is Not Immoral Says Ancient India

Earlier this year, a Delhi court labelled ‘Pre-Marital Sex’ as immoral further adding that it is against the ‘tenets of every religion.’ The court also said, “No religon in the world allows pre-martial sex.While the Indian court straightforwardly tagged pre-marital sexual intercourse as unethical, I wonder why did it miss the basic Vedic literature of Ancient India, which not just had any objection on this conception, but also favored a relationship based out of ‘only love.’ 

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Pre-marital sex in modern day world is highly thought of as a ‘sinful’, ‘wrongful’, ‘impure’, ‘shameful’ and ‘dishonourable’ act. However, let me tell you it is just a modern day philosophy! In fact, ancient Hindus would have found such a judgement or perception as ‘alien.’ Yes, Pre-marital Sex is not at all wrong, impure or sinful as it is highlighted. 

Besides, how can something be wrong and sinful when it is based out of love and is purely consensual? Not convinced? Well, then lets dig into some of the many rationale to support my stand for ‘Pre-marital Sex!’

Many People are of the Opinion that Sex before Marriage is Wrong  – Mainly Because they assume It is Against the Religion!

In Hinduism, there are 8 types of marrriages and out of those eight, one is ‘Gandharva Vivaah’ – A marriage purely based on mutual attraction which was highly practiced in Ancient India. In this type of marriage, a woman selected her own partner. They then consensually decided to stay together and it was sensual passion that consummated their relationship. Mind you, Gandharava Vivaah neither needed any parental consent nor any approval from the so called society. And if you scroll the pages of Kamasutra or Adi Parva in Mahabharat, you’ll find that ‘Gandharva Parva’ is the most promiment of all forms of marriage.

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Poonaam Uppal’s Book – ‘A Passionaate Gospel of True Love : A Mystical True Love Story‘ too gets the chord correct as she rightly quotes ‘True Love as the only Religion of the Future!’

What is Morality and Promiscuity – Lets Give it a Thought Once Again!

If you read the renowned neuroscientist Sam Hariss’ book ‘The Moral Landscape: How Science Can Determine Human Values’ where he tries to draw a third path between religionists (who believe that morality is given by the supreme God along with the scriptures), and secularists (who say morality is highly subjective), you’ll see that, he rightly defines Morality scientifically and measures it as a function of neuroscience and evolution.

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Ultimately, concluding in very simple language – “A behavior or an act is moral if it amplifies collective bliss and immoral if it attempts to minimize the felicity.” Now, intimacy before marriage, neither diminished happiness in the past nor it does today (because it is consensual) so how can it be termed as immoral?

Claiming Pre-Marital Lovemaking as Wrong – Viewpoint of the Misogynst World?

Women are the better halves of Men, however, right from the medieval times women were oppressed and people even commoditized them. In fact, it was thought (which is still applicable) that a woman who indulges into pre-marital sex is out of patriarchal control, and she should be immediately punished – at times people even boycotting her. No wonder, the prejudiced minds irrationaly declines feminine sexuality as they fear sexual expressions of females.

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To be honest, this misogynist thinking is actually immoral which denies natural exploration of one’s sexuality.

How can men obstruct something which is natural, who are they to restrict someone’s happiness? Isn’t sexual indulgence a significant feature of human life? Who are these men, people or society to shun the natural feelings of a human being? Who are these people to term ‘immoral’ to something which is so ‘natural’ and ‘intrinsic’?

Do you still think Pre-marital sex is wrong? Do put your thoughts ]and let’s continue the conversation from there.

Also, do not miss reading “A Passionaate Gospel of True Love : A Mystical True Love Story” by Poonaam Uppal where she rightly highlights the essence of True Love.

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Mahabharat: The Birth of the Pandavas and Kauravas

Often there are jokes around the Internet by Indians as well as foreigners on Dhitrashtr and Gandhari as to how they could manage 100 children. However, Indian mythology has its own mystics and so physical intimacy for 100 times certainly was not the cause. On the contrary, Kauravas were born from the lump of masses that Gandhari had delivered, courtesy Rishi Vyasa. Besides, the five children which were born back to back to Kunti and Madri were not due to physical intimacy but by the aashirwads and tathastus, thanks to various Gods again.

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So, how are the Gods involve in giving birth to Pandavas and Kauravas?

Well, Pandu had killed a sage in disguise as a stag mating with his wife disguised as a doe. He therefore was cursed by the dying sage that since he had killed a creature in its tenderest form he would die instantly too if he ever approaches a woman with a passionate intent. Saddened, he decides to leave Hastinapur and pursue the rest of his life in a forest as a hermit. However, after meeting several sages and gaining knowledge in the concept of salvation, he is startled to know that a man without children could never aim for heaven. He then seeks their blessings who bless him of many worthy sons.

Pandu then thinks of methods to have children and tells Kunti to beget children from illustrious men. Kunti too narrates the incident of her begetting a son from lord Surya as a girl from a mantr which she had received from Durvasa Rishi. Pandu is overjoyed after hearing this incident and he wishes his first son to be from Yama, the Lord of Justice as truth is the most superlative virtue any man may possess. So, this is how Yudhishtr is born to Kunti as soon as she chants the mantr and summons Lord Yama with waiting for the gestation period of nine months. When Yudhishtr was born, Dhritrashtr was still childless and so Yudhishtr became the eldest son of the Kuru dynasty.

When Gandhari got to know that Kunti delivered Yudhistr she beat her womb in frustration as her pregnancy prolonged for a very unusual time. She then did not deliver any baby but a lump of mass. Satyawati then approached King Vyasa who divided the lump into 100 equal parts. Kept each of them into the pots of ghee and sealed it into the earth for a period of 1 year. The show however shows that it was hanged and not buried unlike the tale. So, this is how the Kauravas were born, the first one being the Duryodhan.

Meanwhile, Pandu in the forest thinks that a man with only one son is equal to those who have none and so once again urges Kunti to beget a son and this time from Vyau, the Lord of the Wind. This is how Bheem is born exactly next day after the birth of Duryodhan. Next, is Arjun from Lord Indra.

Madri too desires children of her own and so Kunti teaches her the incantations and then Madri begets the twins, Nakul and Sehdev from the Ashwin brothers.

This is how the 105 children of the Kuru dynasty are born. Out of which 100 are Kauravas, the children of Dhitrashtr and 5 are of Pandavas, the sons of Pandu. One among the Kauravas is a girl who is called Dushala, which was granted to Gandhari from Lord Shiva after she had expressed her wish.