He loved her. She loved him. They were like soul mates. However, they had to bid adieu not for themselves but for the betterment of each other. Here’s a short story on Love, Breakup and Relationship –
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The winters are here and so is my granny – A perfect time for the family get together, gossips, and of course a time to relish the favorite food and desserts! While, throughout the year we love munching the desserts cooked by my mom, the moment my granny is at home we cannot stop but nag her constantly to prepare the Dink Ke Laddu aka Gond Ke Laddoo.
Sweet and very delicious, it is one of my favorite Indian desserts. Interestingly, it is also quite healthy. So, nobody can actually raise their eyebrows when you eat 2 laddoos instead of just one. However, being on a diet (particularly sugar free) I decided not to bug my granny to prepare my beloved Dink Ke Laddu but she never fails to surprise me. Well, she actually prepared the Dink Ke Laddu popularly known as Gond Ke Laddoo by the all new Sugarfree Natura.
Gond 200 gm
Wheat Flour 100 gm
Ghee 250 gm
Sugar Free Natura 200 gm
Dry Fruits – We used Almond, Cashew nut, Walnut, Pista,
Coconut Dry (sliced) 100 gm
Tip – If the pieces of Gond are large in size the n break it into smaller pieces.
Add ghee in the kadai (pan) and heat it. Pour the gaund in the heated ghee. The pieces will puff up like popcorn. Further, heat it in low flame so that the dink is cooked thoroughly even from the inside. Take it out and keep aside to cool.
In the same ghee, now add all the dry fruits that you want in the laddoo and heat in low flame for few minutes.
Roast the coconut as well
Next, remove the dry fruits and pour the wheat flour and khaskhas in the kadai and heat it till it turns slightly brown. Make sure you stir it continuously.
Mix the Sugarfree Natura, fried dry fruits, dink and the roasted wheat flour in the kadai or a big bowl. Make sure you fuse the mixture quite well so that the sugar spreads equally throughout the mixture of gaund, dry fruits and the flour. The measure of the Sugar Free Natura is same as that of the powdered sugar you add normally – Yes, cheeni jaisa naap, cheeni jaisa swaad.
Now take a small portion of the mixture and shape it into a round ball to get the desired Gaund Ke Laddu. You can also make Gaund Ke Barfi if you wish too instead of making the laddoos.
Eat it right then and store the rest in air tight container.
Well, this recipe made up by my Granny not just satisfied my sweet tooth but also ensured that my sugar free diet remains active and alive.
Gond Ke Laddu or Dink Ke Laddu is even given to ladies after the delivery so that the body of the nursing mother recovers fast. Since, the laddu has lot of nutritional values it is often consumed with milk in the breakfast during the winters to produce heat in the body.
Relationships are complicated but there are modifiers to make it simple, easy, fun loving and happy. While a certain gesture can make it worse, a little shared moment can mellow everything. Discover what these gesticulations are that can simply turn you into soul-mates from mates.
Sometimes grand gestures, fireworks and huge spending don’t create that magic, than the obvious that makes the relationship stronger and happier. An authentic connection between the couples, simple shared moments, passionate touch, feelings of trust, closeness, transparency and caressing has tremendous potential in jazzing up their life in a special form, making them more closer and intimate.
You might wonder what are these simple moments? If you think that intimacy is all about sexual arousal and satisfaction, think again. It has more to do with romantic shared moments than sexual connections.
Let us find these simple tricks that can boost your love and make your relationship all the more better and worthwhile –
“Gestures, in love, are incomparably more attractive, effective and valuable than words.” ~ Francois Rabelais
Love – Sometimes the greatest justification that your partner loves you and you are well appreciated is when he or she makes small unexpected gestures. Yes, planning a romantic dinner and a weekend getaway is always valued and cherished. However, buying your wife a heart shaped earring simply because you happened to walk by a store, see it in the display window and know she would love it, will truly create an impression. It’s actually a “no-real-reason” feeling that makes the entire gesture mean so much.
“Love begins at home, and it is not how much we do… but how much love we put in that action.” ~ Mother Teresa
Caress – Most of the couples divide their chores. For instance, the wife does the household chores and it is his duty to throw away that trash. But once in a while, when he is really knocked down with all his work and its pressures, instead of nagging him for not observing the spilling over a dustbin, throw it out for him. When you love someone deeply, you pitch in, even if you might not be asked to do so. Little gesticulations to make each other’s life easy makes you remind as to why you put up with her snoring or his stinky feet, in the first place. In addition, giving your mate a break makes him a bit relaxed which makes it easier for you two to appreciate each other’s company.
“Action speaks louder than words and expression more than letters.”
Feel – Let’s face it, telling your better half how much she means to you can feel kind of silly or corny. But expressing them in a unique style can bring color to your relationship. Without expressions and feelings, you might risk yourself in falling into “taking each other for granted” syndrome. Now, that doesn’t mean you have to pen down long love letters for emotional emails but small notes like, “I love you” or a “kiss” in the morning, a gentle touch while going out for office.
Our smile will always be one of my favorite things like backward barbecue’s and front porch swings and evening breezes through window screens ~ Josh Turner
Discover – Trying to do something just for the sake of your spouse make them feel on top of the world. For instance, if you attend her nephew’s birthday party although you are not that social person to indulge these activities, she is ought to love you for this. Similarly, if you are too tired yet you indulge in sex because you know he would love it, will make him really happy. Sometimes saying “yes” for your usual “no” can lead to that intimate pleasure which has no comparison.
Let these romantic touch build up your chemistry and sizzle your intimacy. All ready to #BringBackTheTouch?
Indiblogger meets are always fun and interesting! After all, the moment it is announced, we bloggers start facebook(ing), twitter(ing) and whatsapp(ing) in order to find out who all are coming. Zindagi Indiblogger Meet was no exception. But, the interest level exceeded to another level since we were suppose to meet and interact not just with our blogger friends from Mumbai, but also Delhi along with the director, scriptwriters and the Pakistani actor Imran Abbas from the upcoming channel Zee Zindagi!
Zee Zindagi – Now, doesn’t that name bring a certain type of fresh breathe with it? It surely does! No wonder, Zee Zindagi along with the awesome Indiblogger team made sure we bloggers have a great day and here I tell you how and why –
Oh yes, we were invited to a meet where the theme was “Love” and that too across borders. For a change, we were not seen appreciating Sachin and pulling Shahid Afridi down but recollecting olden days of Pakistani serials which we cherished, the mesmerizing songs which all the Pakistani singers have given us and of course showering our rare admiration to our neighboring brothers. No it wasn’t show off, it really came out DilSe because somewhere deep down, we have a soft corner for them when it comes to “Talent”, “Arts”, “Music” and few more things except Cricket.
Many of the times I have attended meets, seminars and weddings where I have seen mikes are not working, AV takes time to start, or worst there is a huge sound disturbance. But, here I saw the technicians not just connecting us to the ongoing Delhi Bloggers Meet Live but also the beautiful Sultana (Siddiqui) Appa, director of Zee Zindag TV‘s first show – Zindagi Gulzar Hai live from Pakistan – Surely deserving a round of applause for a completely flawless job!
If India Vs Pakistan is a war, Mumbai Vs Delhi is no different ball game. This was quite evident in the conversation when the dudes and dudettes of both the cities came out in defense of their respective city. It was quite a funny moment to see how deep both the city representatives went to show “WE ARE THE BEST” especially when Delhities and Mumbaikars started defending their weather. One of the best moments of the meet, the debate made us LOLing and ROFLing when people went out to defend the humidity of Mumbai and even the extreme summers as well as winters of Delhi.
We have all sort of people everywhere and here too though it was an event of arts, talent and love people brought out “politics” & “war” and that too with an actor who had dubbed till 8 am in the morning. Imran Abbas, our heart went out to you, we at the back tables only wished if the topic changed fast. But, we appreciate, the way you replied! *claps*
Though the entire team of Indiblogger deserves a name here, I have dedicated the slot to Anoop and Nihal for being the excellent host & dost. No one can beat the punches and one liners that Anoop manages to say effortlessly. The best part here in the Zindagi meet was when Anoop wanted Nihal to call upon the winner of the MOTO G and Nihal couldn’t hear what Anoop said and kept on repeating what should I do, To whom should I call. Finally, Anoop said nothing but, “Give him the Moto G, dammit!” 😛 😀
When nobody asked anything personal to Imran and they kept focusing on “political ties” with India and Pakistan, we, the listeners were rescued by the Zee team when they mentioned Imran Abbas is an awesome singer. Believe me, it was a pleasure to hear that soothing, calming and beautiful voice. No wonder, I was busy searching the video and I got one shared on Youtube by Blogwati Gee. I will share the same video here as well, you see I’m no meany 😀
Indiblogger and Zee always make it a point that we bloggers get a first glimpse of channels and shows with a complete insight. Here too, we were shown a lot of promos of upcoming serials whose ads I have still not come across on the channel. Besides, connecting us with the legendary Sultana Siddiqui was another moment to remember which I think we all shall remember and boast for ages now.
To be honest, I wasn’t aware of any of these shows except hearing from my co-blogger friend Fatima. I am glad for a change I got to see the promos of shows like Zindagi Gulzar Hai, Aunn Zaara, Kash Mai Teri Beti Na Hoti and many more!
Oh well, the tables weren’t really numbered that’s one of my own sobriquet. Anyways our Table No. 7 was interesting in itself. The reason, well we had some of the most intriguing people on the table who had a great sense of humor. Ah yes, we even had our own moments of selfie too.
As usual I couldn’t focus on the veg section but let me tell you the Thai Chicken served was to die for. Luscious and delicious, almost all the adjectives will be short if I tried to describe it. Again, the flavors of rasmalai and caramel custard was something that I had in my mouth right till the High Tea until I had some more chicken, bhajias, fish finger chips. Now, do I sound like a Bhukkad? Well, at times I feel proud of being one!
It had been long since I met one of my very first blogger friend Anukriti. Here, in the meet I not only enjoyed her presence but even got to meet, talk and dine with her for long hours. Karan Shah, no I won’t miss you here! You, are of course an awesome companion from Vashi to all the destinations 😉 And I appreciate you did not keep me waiting this time. Sud, my sabu you were missed. Then, as usual it was a pleasure to meet and talk the very cheerful Ekta Khetan, and how can I miss the laal tamatar Fatima!
It is always fun to get clicked with a celebrity and post it on social media. We get all the attention in the world, don’t we? And here, we had an opportunity to meet the upcoming star who is not only a tele actor, a great singer but also the future BOLLYWOOD STAR starring opposite Bipasha Basu! Thanks, Indiblogger and Zee Zindagi, we have memories not only itched on our Facebook Wall, Twitter Page and our blogs, but also in our mind and heart ❤ Did I hear correct that someone even sent a love letter to Imran Abbas? :p
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The girlfriend pointing at the boyfriend, the boyfriend blaming the girlfriend. The wifey bombarding on the hubby and the hubby retracting it on her. Who is at fault? We probably do not know. Let’s find out…
How many times have you heard the prominent phrase,” it’s your fault and not mine?” Many a times, right? No matter whoever utters it, the recipient is generally aggravated by the allusion that they have made some mistake. It appears as if no one wants to be labelled by a fickle finger blaming them and charging them for something or the other.
A very common trait observed in humans, it seems that everyone hates to be in the situation of fault. However, the same person would leave no stones unturned to blame the opposite person. And relationship between a man and a woman, husband and wife, a girl and a boy is no different.
Why does it happen? Well, mainly because in a relationship often a person may find it thorny to say they made a blunder, did something they were not supposed to do or didn’t do something they were supposed to do. So what they usually do as an alternative? Well, to make it appear simple and very straightforward, they simply remove their hand, point that index finger at their spouse and articulate, “It wasn’t me, it was you!”
Why is it hard for people in a relationship to admit the truth that they may be liable in a situation that has an ill-fated upshot? Maybe it has something in relation to the other sport that is played by several people. Accepting charge is accepting the reality that they are not faultless. It is so awful that although they know they are not just right in every way, but still they don’t want people to discern that actually.
The sport of Blame and the I’m faultless Game are sport that end up without any winners. It basically isn’t worth the time it takes to fool around by playing these blame games. On the contrary, it is so much healthier to engage yourself in the Integrity Game and to take the blame by saying you are at fault. It is always better and sensible to own up to limitation and imperfection. Flawlessness and perfectness are really dull and overestimated. To be honest, it is in fact unachievable.
Apprehension is yet another aspect that comes into picture for those who play the sport of retribution, repercussions, fear of consequence, embarrassment, blame game and payback.
Lastly, the most vital question to raise for yourself if you are playing the Blame Game is, does it actually matter who is correct and who is incorrect in any given circumstances in any relationship. Does pointing your fingers on others can ever perk up a relationship? Of course not; in fact, it will increase more and more problem than solving the last few.
Well, conceivably taking the elevated road and opting integrity is a better alternative than playing the Blame Game, isn’t it?
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. “Love has no desire but to fulfill itself. To melt and be like a running brook that sings its melody to the night. To wake at dawn with a winged heart and give thanks for another day of loving.” ~Kahlil Gibran
Our first kiss, our first date and our first love are the reminiscences that have quite an everlasting effect on ourselves. We might forget our greatest grief but it becomes very intricate to forget those moments which we had once cultivated from the threads of feelings and trust. What happens once when the equation fades, the thread ruptures and the person who was everything goes away from our life. What do we do then? Do we drown ourselves in self pity or try to come out by my moving forward.
Stalking his Facebook status, walking past through his home, waiting long near your ex office and call him from unknown numbers will do no good. Although it is difficult but it is better to forget about something that has been tarnished rather than trying to give it a shot every now and then. Life doesn’t stop with one failed relationship but goes on. So, we need to accept the future with open arms and try to live each day blissfully like they say, out of the heart of the darkness comes the morning light.
Indulge with your buddies, pamper yourself, get a make -over or perhaps do what you feel the best. The idea is to get over the past to enjoy and live in the present. Not to cry for a lost relationship and the love of your ex but celebrate life as it comes!
You still cherish the gift he gave you on the first date? No matter how beautiful it may be, it is now worthless because as soon as your eyes go on it, you sink once again in the memory lane. False hope will only ruin and never heal you. Love letters, sovereigns or anything related to him will only remind you of your failed relationship. Trash it, dump it or throw it, but never try to hold it.
Often you and your ex may have common friends and acquaintances, avoid asking them about him and till the time you are completely over him, avoid connections or meeting with the common acquaintances. Stop putting his name in the Facebook search box to check what’s happening with him. The new girl in his pictures will only make your head spin. Unfriend him, stop peeping into his life and by any means do not let it become an obsession.
One of the essential part of loving is to let him go, so delete his number, stop chasing him or visiting his folks. Do whatever it takes to stay busy and get away from all that sick feeling of loneliness and seclusion. Remember, love is just part of a life and not life. Besides, the absence of your ex who has no significance in your present should not become a constraint of your future.
Close the chapter, let it go and get back to your road to happiness. Life is beautiful and is eagerly waiting for you, are you ready to start yet again?
The trade of keeping secrets is a very complex affair. That’s mainly because everybody’s after secrets. If anybody ever finds that you have been keeping a secret, they’ll track you or leap at you like a sniffer dog in order to dig up your secret. It is a universal truth that people starve for secrets even more than they starve for food. Such is the pull or magnetism of a secret.
You will be able to keep anything in your custody safe and sound except for a secret. That very instant people makes out that you have a secret, they’ll pester you till you go nuts and divulge out your secret in utter frustration. At times, keeping a secret requires involvement with another person. This can be an absolutely frightening state as you won’t know whom to rely with your secret.
The individual whom you think will keep your secret competently is perhaps the first and foremost person to go and tattle out your top secret to your colleagues, neighbors and so-called buddies. Or he or she may swindle you, pretending to keep your secret although they are functioning for your adversary. The person might trick you into thinking that they are trustworthy to you by revealing to you your adversary’s top secret. By this line of attack the person is a confidant to both you and your adversary while they are functioning for neither but themselves. Accordingly you can well envision the perils of trusting anybody with your secret.
Who Can Keep Your Secret a Secret? Mum’s the Answer
A secret can be in any form like a secret affair,a secret action, a secret wish, a secret thought, a secret letter, a secret happening, a secret meeting and any other type of secret. This planet is encompassed with secrets and many of us believe that we have been born here to discover the secrets of the Earth.
Almost every one of us has some secret that we want to keep tightly locked within ourselves. But at that the same time, during some occasion, it is very difficult to keep even our own secrets. We, human beings often feel the excruciating want to let loose our minds in consequence of being burdened down by secrets, to share our secrets with a close associate most preferably a friend. However herein lies the hitch. Who is to take up the position of a close friend? Studies have revealed that mothers are the greatest secret-keepers.
Moms have a natural compassion and love for their kids that actually prompts them to keep their children’s secrets utterly secure and safe. However apart from your mom, it seems that there is nobody else you can risk with your top secrets. Associates and buddies nearly always let the cat out of the sack to have a good humor on the sly. If you inform a close friend that something’s very secretive and to be kept mum, the friend will without delay spill the beans to yet another associate or friend saying that it is a secret and supposed to be kept mum. Ultimately, you’ll find everyone is talking about you and your top secret in a hush-hush mode.
Spouses have a general tendency to misuse secrets when they are having a quarrel. The moment you squabble, whatever you have told them when both of you had been together will be used wrongly and made public. Siblings, on the other hand also have a good laugh at your cost if they are privy to your secrets and make out that you have something to hide. Your weak points then become a great prospect to siblings who believe themselves to be your rivals and who try to win every possible chance to get hold of family attention. Fathers of the old school, who are arrogant, ambitious, egotistic and proud, cannot be considered as good keepers of confidences simply because they are unapproachable.
Nevertheless, there are exceptions. There are friends who would die but never leak out their buddies secrets. There are spouses who would gladly play the cloak-and-dagger sport to disguise the surreptitious moves of their spouse. There are siblings who would walk out of their means only to help and support their erring sisters and brothers, to cover-up their inadequacy. Excluding all exceptions to all set of laws, mothers are the best shield of their children and their children’s secrets.
I share all my hope, desires, dreams, wishes, conspiracy and even the deepest secrets with my mom, do you share your secrets with mom?
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It’s late at night and I’m still wondering
Sometimes, blinking my eyes,
Along with the still surrounding
And sometimes by just looking at the motionless trees.
The twinkling stars keep on enlightening my mind and soul
As I look up to them,
Thinking about you all the time
Yea, it’s late in the night and I’m still wondering…
No more bright shine of the sun
And the whooping willow of the wind,
No more tides in the ocean and chirping of birds,
But it’s more and more of you in my mind
When I think about you from the rest of the herd.
Yea, it’s late at night, and I’m still wondering…
Night showers me with all those memories in a thread,
making me think about you,
even when I’m lying on my bed.
Yes, yes, it’s still late at night and I’m wondering…
After a few hour, day will come and night will go,
Birds will chirp and rivers will flow,
But my heart will keep on thinking about you,
Whether its a dark night or a morning dew.
Coz it’s late in the night and I am still wondering….
Wondering if you would smile, if I smile at you,
Say hello, if I greet you,
Kiss me, if I come to you
And keep on loving me, if I say I love you too…
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